A Brief History of Conversational Hypnosis
It is important to know the history of
conversational hypnosis because it came about over
the course of over 100 years. Several people
contributed to the vast amount of knowledge that
has now become conversational hypnosis.
It is important to point out that not one doctor or
psychologist came up with the idea of
conversational hypnosis. Rather, it was a sort of
evolution that was created by many over the years.
The first major scientist to contribute to the
fascinating topic of conversational hypnosis was
Ivan Pavlov. Pavlov was perhaps most well known for
the term “conditioning.” Pavlov taught dogs to
associate food with the ringing of a bell. The dogs
would salivate when given the food. Overtime,
Pavlov exposed the dogs to the food and would ring
a bell at the same time. When the food was taken
away and only the bell was rung, the dogs still
salivated.
With conditioning, Ivan Pavlov paved the
way for conversational hypnosis.
The next scientist to contribute to conversational
hypnosis was Dr. John B. Watson. Watson was a
behavioral scientist. He was well known for taking
the basic principles that Pavlov had established
and applying them to humans. Watson studied people,
their behavior and how their behavior was
influenced by their environment. Conversational
hypnosis has a lot to do with behavior and Watson
was able to influence the evolution of
conversational hypnosis.
B.F. Skinner was another behavioral scientist who
contributed to conversational hypnosis. We live in
a stimulus response world and B.F. Skinner realized
that. He realized that if you have a certain
stimulus in the environment then it would illicit a
response. He took what Dr. Watson had done and
really took it to the next level. Skinner developed
what is known as “radical behavioralism” which
included thinking, perception and emotion in
studying behavior of humans.
Milton Erickson was one of the first to be an
advocate of medical hypnosis. He also was a major
contributor of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
which is a major component to conversational
hypnosis. Erickson believed in the power of
suggestion and that your subconscious mind is
always active, the basis of hypnosis.
Lastly, Richard Bandler and John Grinder were the
co-founders of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP).
NLP is the description of different communication
techniques used to interact with people. NLP also
deals heavily on the idea of persuasion.
All of these people and their research has led up
to the idea and techniques of conversational
hypnosis. Conversational hypnosis is the idea that
you can persuade, manipulate, or control to get
what you want. Of course, conversational hypnosis
should only be used for good.
A Brief History of Conversational Hypnosis
What Is Conversational Hypnosis
Conversational hypnosis is the ability to
“hypnotize” people through conversation. I put the
word hypnotize in quotations because generally
speaking, conversational hypnosis does not put
someone in a trance. Learning the skills of
conversational hypnosis enables you to get what you
want from people.
Everyone wants the ability to get what they want
from other people. Conversational hypnosis allows
you to develop rapport with another person so that
you are easily able to convey what you want either
in a direct or embedded way.
Conversational hypnosis deals a lot with NLP or
Neuro Linguistic Programming. One aspect of NLP and
conversational hypnosis are representational
systems. There are three major representational
systems: visual, auditory, and kinesthetic.
The visual representational system describes people
who gravitate towards their visual field. These are
types of people who are more in tune with their
visual field. When explaining something to someone
who is visual they are most likely to picture it in
their minds. Later, when accessing this
conversation or story a visual person will be able
to visualize the story in their head.
The auditory representational system describes
people who gravitate towards their auditory field.
These people are more in tune with their hearing
ability and with sounds. They tend to listen to
words and sounds and associate things with these
words and sounds. People who are lean toward an
auditory representation system often say “sounds
good” or “I hear what you are saying.”
The kinesthetic representational system describes
people who depend on their feeling or sense of
touch. These people are most in tune with their
sense of touch. When talking with someone who
depends on their kinesthetic representational
system, they might say “hold on” when they are
asking you to wait.
When I work with clients, I like to figure out
whether they depend on visual, auditory, or
kinesthetic clues. When I figure out what
representational system describes them, I am better
able to develop rapport with them. Developing
rapport is very important during any type of
therapy between a client and their therapist
whether it is hypnotherapy or psychiatry.
Being able to appeal to a client’s representational
system allows me to develop rapport with them and a
level of trust is established. It also helps the
client realize that I am there to help them make
positive changes in their life. They feel as though
I understand exactly what they are going through.
A client is more likely to make changes in their own
life if they feel confident and at ease around
their therapist.
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Conversational Hypnosis: Establishing Rapport with
Pacing
Conversational hypnosis is all about getting your
way. Who does not want to get their way and be in
control of situations? Being in control gives you
power and that leads to getting what you want.
The most important aspect of conversational
hypnosis is learning the art of developing rapport
with another person. Rapport is the ability to be
“in tune” with someone subconsciously. It is
important to establish rapport because rapport will
help you gain a sense of trust with the other
person. Rapport will allow you to persuade and
control to ultimately get your way.
Seventy percent of a “conversation” occurs without
words. You can convey a lot with body language,
facial expression, and hand gestures. There are
different techniques to use while interacting with
someone. Both verbal and non-verbal cues are used
to establish rapport.
Rapport can be established verbally and non-
verbally through pacing and mirroring. Pacing is
doing what someone else does in the same way that
they do it. Pacing can be verbal or non-verbal,
involving conversation, body language, and rhythm
to name a few. Mirroring is non-verbal and involves
body language, hand gestures, and anything not
involving conversation. In this article I will just
talk about pacing.
Establishing rapport using pacing can involve
figuring out a persons representational system (ie:
visual, auditory, kinesthetic) and using this to
your advantage. Matching someone’s representational
system makes the other person feel as though you
are able to easily relate to them.
Another pacing technique involves listening to the
other person’s rhythm as they speak. Most people
have a natural cadence to their speech. Pay
attention to their tempo and see if you can match
it. This creates rapport with a natural cadence and
flow to the conversation.
Another cue to pay attention to is their tone of
voice. Is it high pitched or low pitched? If it is
a very distinct pitch, then it is probably not a
good idea to match because it could cause the
opposite of rapport! If matching their voice tone
involves just a slight change in your tone, then
try it out. You will be surprised at how easy this
technique is.
In order to establish rapport through pacing, you
must practice! Give yourself around one week to try
these techniques out on friends or strangers. It is
a lot of fun to practice at a party. Be patient and
practice and you too can master these skills to
develop rapport.
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Conversational Hypnosis: Establishing Rapport with
Mirroring
Conversational hypnosis is used to persuade and
control those around you so that you can get what
you want. Not only is conversational hypnosis used
so that you get what you want, but it is also used
so that other people do not take advantage of you.
Conversational hypnosis gives you power and that
leads to getting what you want.
As I have said in earlier articles, the most
important aspect of conversational hypnosis is
learning the art of developing rapport with another
person. Rapport is the ability to be “in tune” with
someone subconsciously. Rapport will enable others
to have trust in you. Rapport will allow you to
gain their respect so that you can get what you
want.
The concept I would now like to share with you is
called mirroring. I would like for you to go ahead
and stand in front of a mirror. Raise your right
hand. Notice that when you raise your right hand,
your image in the mirror appears to raising their
left hand. Notice that the same thing happens when
you scratch your head.
Mirroring is non-verbal and allows you “mirror”
another person to develop rapport with them.
Imagine sitting down with someone you would like to
develop rapport with. Perhaps you notice that they
have one leg crossed on their knee. You can mirror
their posture or crossed leg. This gives the other
person the impression that you are similar to them.
However, this impression is subconscious.
When mirroring someone it is important to do so in
a manner in which you will not get caught. If the
other person scratches their head and you scratch
your head to quickly, you might get caught. Neither
of you want that to happen!
This is why mirroring is important to practice. Go
ahead and take a week to practice with friends or
at a party so you give yourself a chance to get
good at it. Believe me, it does require some
practice. Mirroring someone too quickly will get
you caught and mirroring someone too late will not
help you establish rapport.
Another way to mirror someone is to mirror their
breathing. Notice the rhythm of their breathing by
their rising chest and breathe in and out when they
breathe in and out. This method will help you
establish rapport with the other person. Now, if it
is unnatural to you to mirror someone else’s
breathing, then do not attempt it. You do not want
to get caught!
A way in which you can mirror someone’s breathing
without changing your breathing pattern is using a
technique called cross-over mirroring. Cross-over
mirroring is when you imitate someone’s rhythm, but
in a different way. If you wanted to mirror
someone’s breathing using cross-over mirroring you
could tap your finger or pen using the same rhythm
as their breathing.
In order to establish rapport through mirroring,
you must practice! Give yourself around one week to
try these techniques out on friends or strangers.
Be patient and practice and you too can master
these skills to develop rapport.
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Conversational Hypnosis: Eye-Accessing Cues Part I
Conversational hypnosis is full of various
techniques that you can use on other people to get
what you want! It is a way that you can consciously
act on their subconscious minds, without them
knowing it. Of course, I always encourage people to
use conversational hypnosis for good because there
are so many powerful things you can do with
conversational hypnosis.
In this article, I am going to introduce a unique
and interesting topic. I am going to talk about
eye-accessing cues. You can actually look at
someone’s face and look at their eyes. You can
watch the direction in which their eyes are moving
with each thing that they are saying or thinking.
The importance of watching their eyes during a
conversation is that their eyes can reveal what
their mind is thinking. Now let’s talk about the
six different eye-accessing cues:
Visually Created (VC): when someone is looking up
and to the left (if you are facing them) they are
visually creating something in their mind. They are
trying to create a new image.
Auditory Created (AC): when someone is looking
across to the left they are auditory creating
something in their mind. They are trying create
something that they heard.
Kinesthetic (K): when someone looks down to the
left, they are creating something kinesthetically
in their mind. They refer to the sense of touch or
motion.
Visually Remembered (VR): when someone is looking
up and to the right, they are remembering a visual
image.
Auditory Remembered (AC): when someone is looking
across and to the right, they are trying to
remember something that they heard.
Internal Dialogue (ID): when someone is looking
down and to the right, they are repeating their
inner dialogue.
Watching someone’s eye-accessing cues takes
practice. You have to be very in tune with what
they are saying and the direction of their eye
movements. As with any of these conversational
hypnosis techniques, it will take some practice
getting used to. I encourage you to practice with
friends and really pay attention to their eye-
accessing cues. Go have fun with it!
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Conversational Hypnosis: Eye-Accessing Cues Part II
Conversational hypnosis is a program consisting of
many hypnosis and NLP techniques. These techniques
you can be useful in many different situations such
as dating, sales, and developing rapport with
another person. It is a way that you can
consciously act on someone’s subconscious mind,
without them knowing it. Of course, I always
encourage people to use conversational hypnosis for
good because there are so many powerful techniques
you can use with conversational hypnosis.
In my last article I talked about the six different
eye accessing cues. They were: visually created
(VC), auditory created (AC), kinesthetic (K),
visually remembered (VR), auditory remembered (AR),
and internal dialogue (IR). Basically, these cues
are apparent by the direction someone is looking
and thus you can read what is going on in their
mind.
Law enforcement agencies train their agents with
this technology. This is true in the USA and
probably other countries. The Federal Agents are
trained at FLETC. The fact that the US government
pays money to have their Federal Agents trained in
this technology is good news. The US Federal
Government sees that it is important to train their
agents with this technique so that their agents can
get into the minds of someone they are
interrogating.
Do keep in mind that this information is out there.
If you have someone staring right at you, it may be
someone who is using this technology on you.
Chances are you will be dealing with a date,
someone to whom you may be selling something to, a
child, a parent, husband or wife, boyfriend or
girlfriend or someone who is your boss or employee.
Before you can use any of this technology you must
first determine which way the person is oriented,
referring to whether they use the accessing cues
“normally” or the opposite. If you want to see if
someone is normally oriented, you would talk to
them about something you know they have never seen
before. For example, you might mention a character
in a movie or something that would require them to
create something visual. They would have to create
it in their minds. You will then see which way they
look when they create something visual. If they
look up to their right, you know that they are
normally oriented. If they look up to their left,
you know that they are oppositely oriented.
As you can see it will take some practice to get
used to someone’s eye accessing cues. After you
have practiced with some friends, go ahead and try
it out on people you don’t know. Try to see if you
can get into their mind. Learning eye-accessing
cues is a very powerful technique. It allows you
learn a little more about the person you are
talking to than if you were just having a normal
conversation.
I encourage you to go out and try this technique on
people. It is fascinating and a great skill to
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What Is Conversational Hypnosis
Conversational hypnosis is the ability to
“hypnotize” people through conversation. I put the
word hypnotize in quotations because generally
speaking, conversational hypnosis does not put
someone in a trance. Learning the skills of
conversational hypnosis enables you to get what you
want from people.
Everyone wants the ability to get what they want
from other people. Conversational hypnosis allows
you to develop rapport with another person so that
you are easily able to convey what you want either
in a direct or embedded way.
Conversational hypnosis deals a lot with NLP or
Neuro Linguistic Programming. One aspect of NLP and
conversational hypnosis are representational
systems. There are three major representational
systems: visual, auditory, and kinesthetic.
The visual representational system describes people
who gravitate towards their visual field. These are
types of people who are more in tune with their
visual field. When explaining something to someone
who is visual they are most likely to picture it in
their minds. Later, when accessing this
conversation or story a visual person will be able
to visualize the story in their head.
The auditory representational system describes
people who gravitate towards their auditory field.
These people are more in tune with their hearing
ability and with sounds. They tend to listen to
words and sounds and associate things with these
words and sounds. People who are lean toward an
auditory representation system often say “sounds
good” or “I hear what you are saying.”
The kinesthetic representational system describes
people who depend on their feeling or sense of
touch. These people are most in tune with their
sense of touch. When talking with someone who
depends on their kinesthetic representational
system, they might say “hold on” when they are
asking you to wait.
When I work with clients, I like to figure out
whether they depend on visual, auditory, or
kinesthetic clues. When I figure out what
representational system describes them, I am better
able to develop rapport with them. Developing
rapport is very important during any type of
therapy between a client and their therapist
whether it is hypnotherapy or psychiatry.
Being able to appeal to a client’s representational
system allows me to develop rapport with them and a
level of trust is established. It also helps the
client realize that I am there to help them make
positive changes in their life. They feel as though
I understand exactly what they are going through.
A client is more likely to make changes in their own
life if they feel confident and at ease around
their therapist.
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